Drowning yourself in self-pity and unhappiness in probably the easiest thing a person can do. it takes no extra effort, hard word from your side but takes away all your enthusiasm, love and respect for the self, creativity and motivation for a brighter tomorrow. As a kid, I was dissatisfied with almost everything, I had so many things to complain about that I forgot to rejoice the small moments and gifts life has to offer. All I did was surround myself with biology, trigonometry, geometry, history and other never ending lists. When I started realizing that what I had been doing is not the right way and tried to step out, I forget to balance it with those books I needed to read, and I sunk. I didn't even know where I actually went wrong and when I ACTUALLY understood the importance of balance, it was too late to drag the boat out of the sea. I found myself in the middle of nowhere, with no emotions, aspirations, motivations or friends for I had traded them all with the so called freedom.
At times, we make decisions that seem right for the moment we live in but in the long term they do us more harm than good. we get so caught up with the slogans of "live in the moment", "YOLO", " " and etc. that we forget the real meaning behind them. we get dazzled by the momentary bliss these slogans provide that we begin to forget our real goal and responsibilities. and at times when you look back at your life and think of what destination you were headed to and where you have reached you find yourself stuck in the situation of trying not to care about it or having a panic attack followed by mental and emotional breakdown. you lose hope, convince yourself that there's no way out or back now and its just too late to fix things. and that is where most people are usually wrong, when you things up, you need to look ahead and find a new way to reach your supposed destination and fix things NOT go back and erase the history you have already written because time only moves forward never back. so there's no use of wishing if only you had stuck to your plans and carried on. all those wishing and moping does is kill you internally, kill your enthusiasm about everything and just demotivate you. so what we can instead do after the deed is done is accept that you messed up and you need to make things right again, not to please anyone, not to showoff to anybody but to awake yourself from the bad nightmare you have been having!
Often, people isolate themselves and try to get their shit together and often just go back to the same old depression and dissatisfaction. because as might classy as it sound to work in silence and let the success make the noise, a little motivation and scolding from your loved ones is always the best therapy to succeed in life. And a little optimism towards everything in life never hurt nobody!